Puppy Blues I never expected…

“Will I be getting my sleep back?”, “How long more till he knows where to pee and poo?”, “When can I ever leave him alone?”, “Can I return this pup to the breeder/SPCA?”

Have you been asking these questions to yourself?

You have just adopted a precious puppy, or waited two months just to bring your puppy home from the breeder. He is absolutely the most adorable thing you have ever owned, but… he is also sort of ruining your life. Was this whole decision a big mistake?

Welcome to “Puppy Blues”

Just like how mothers could develop postpartum depression, puppy blues are a similar phenomenon. Even though puppies are not children, there are some aspects of raising a puppy that is pretty much similar to raising a baby.

It is perfectly normal for you to feel exhausted, bumped out and overwhelmed. You are not alone and I can assure you this does not last forever.

Hoshi at 10 weeks old (First day at his new home)

When I first brought Hoshi from the breeder, I was really excited and wouldn’t stop looking at the precious ball of cuteness. However, it did not take long for the stress and blues to kick in.

On Hoshi’s first night home, there was barely any sleep as I woke up every 30 – 45 minutes to check on Hoshi and made sure he did not pee in his crate. This has led to a huge lack of sleep for at least a month. Sleep deprivation is a major contributing factor to puppy blues and it will become much harder to maintain your mental health when you can only sleep two to three hours each night! For me, I had to wake up every 1am and 5am to bring Hoshi on his potty break.

Other than potty training your puppy, you can expect yourself to simply not doing anything for the next two weeks! I am really blessed to have Hoshi join the family while I was on a holiday from school. But this will definitely be extremely hard on first time pawrents who have a full-time job or commitment.

Enjoy a short video of puppy Hoshi and my family members (really enjoying the time)

When Hoshi is awake, I am ensuring that he is not putting tissue paper into his mouth, he is not biting my sofa and not stealing socks from the shoe rack. Supervision is extremely important as you would need to spot the moment your puppy needs a toilet break and act fast before you need to start mopping the floor again. When he is sleeping, I am using whatever time I have to finally shut my eyes and get a good rest. There is barely any time for yourself, your work and relationships. I felt really left out when I saw my friends meeting up after a long circuit breaker and yet, I was stuck at home taking care of a poop machine.

Here is short 2 seconds video to show the panic in my voice as I screams “oh! shit shit” (He was about the poop half way when we were playing with him)

These are just small little snippets to how your lifestyle could change after welcoming a puppy into your life. I assure you that I have done plenty of homework two months prior to bringing him home for the breeder, yet I was still taken aback by these changes and sacrifices I had to make. I am sure you have done your research and preparation. But do set low expectations for yourself and know that it is okay and normal to be stressed or overwhelmed despite feeling you were prepared for it.

Raising a puppy takes time and effort, it is also difficult and some might even say painful experience, especially for first time owners. Along with these sad and anxious feelings there could also be feelings of regret and guilt. I was drowning in guilt for wanting to send Hoshi back to the breeder after day two!

I expected myself to be happy, after all this was something I had wanted since I was a child. My whole family was excited to welcome this new family member. Everyone was delighted but me. The guilt was overwhelming and I wished someone was there to tell me it was okay to feel what I felt.

To whoever who needs to hear this, it is absolutely okay and normal to be feeling all that you felt. There is no need to feel guilty for wanting to send your puppy back to the shelter or breeder. You are not a bad hooman.

So, when will my life actually get back to normal?

Well, it does not. Your life after having a puppy will never go back to what it was, but I am sure it will turn out to be better than what it was. Your puppy will need some time to understand you and your family. Likewise, it would take time for you to understand your puppy and its personality. Life will gradually start to become easier when you both have spent quality time to bond. Before you know it, your puppy will the best friend you can not live without.

At this point in your journey, give it some more time before making another huge decision that you might eventually really regret.  You might be feeling very overwhelmed at this moment and would just want to give up your puppy to remove all the stress at once. But take a step back and really give it chance for both you and your new family member. Take some time, talk to a close friend and really try to savour the funny moments or proud moments with your puppy.

Every single day, they are learning to love you and to communicate the love to you.

Baby Hoshi (at 12 weeks) and I wishing you all the best in your journey with your puppy!

Hoshi used to be my source of stress, but now he is now my source of comfort and support. I really hope that after reading this short story, you would not feel alone in this journey. If you ever need a listening ear or advice on your puppy, you can always find me on Hoshi’s Instagram @hoshi_sheltie. I would love to be a part of your puppy journey and really be there for you like how I wished someone was there that would really understand how I feel. If you have ever experienced this, do comment down below and share your story with new pawrents in the community to let them know they are not alone in this.

Love, Hoshi & Hooman

Insta: hoshi_sheltie

47 Comments

  • Gwen Goh
    Posted September 14, 2020 1:54 pm 0Likes

    helping to take care of hoshi was tough but hoshi is the sweetest pup in the world, and i wouldn’t want any other dog, other than him

  • Ellie
    Posted September 14, 2020 3:12 pm 0Likes

    😍

    • Obi
      Posted September 16, 2020 12:18 am 0Likes

      A very reassuring post to read! We’ve had our puppy coming up three weeks now and the first few days to a week was chaos on my emotions! I felt very isolated and guilty for not knowing how to immediately cater to her needs (she was 8 weeks old). However now that she has started to settle in and we’ve adjusted to having her here things are better. There are still ups and downs (a lot more ups!) but it is still very early days. This is a well articulated post that will be beneficial for first time dog owners / rescuers. It sheds light on common problems and the normality of them!

  • Allexisse
    Posted September 14, 2020 3:15 pm 0Likes

    this was so relatable! I think there are many fur parents (esp first timers) who feel especially bad for having thoughts of returning their doggos back in the beginning but I can speak from experience 😅😅 but trust me when I say that building a relationship with them is truly worth the wait ❤️ you got this everyone!

  • Jane
    Posted September 14, 2020 3:16 pm 0Likes

    Awww I love this article – so heartwarming! Really true that it’s not an easy journey but seeing their smiles makes everything worth it!

  • lionel
    Posted September 14, 2020 4:02 pm 0Likes

    wow what a cute dog! much envy

  • michael
    Posted September 14, 2020 4:03 pm 0Likes

    amazing read! where can i get one for myself?

    • Paxton
      Posted September 14, 2020 9:23 pm 0Likes

      A really good read. N really glad that u persevered. Hoshi is too ooo gorgeous

  • Tomo_snake
    Posted September 14, 2020 4:04 pm 0Likes

    good to see you’re doing well Vanessa! would like to drop by some time and spend some time with Hoshi!!!

  • nic_lovestomo
    Posted September 14, 2020 4:05 pm 0Likes

    hello! haven’t caught up in awhile! hope you’re doing well! maybe bring your dog to school sometime! would love to see him

  • Tomak Nicowara
    Posted September 14, 2020 4:06 pm 0Likes

    beautiful dog! guess you’re hosting our next new year celebration session hahaha!

  • dondonandebi
    Posted September 14, 2020 4:11 pm 0Likes

    Hoshi is so lucky to have a mama like you 😻

  • Yi chen
    Posted September 14, 2020 4:46 pm 0Likes

    That was such a nice article! You are a really good mum to hoshi and all your hardwork and love for hoshi will be worth it ☺️

  • hw
    Posted September 14, 2020 7:26 pm 0Likes

    cute doggo! looks happy w the tender, loving care from its owners!!☺️

    • Jade Pearl
      Posted September 15, 2020 1:18 am 0Likes

      Enjoy reading your article. Hope to read more of your next article soon.

  • KT
    Posted September 14, 2020 8:18 pm 0Likes

    must be awesome to have him around hahaha!!

  • Debbie
    Posted September 14, 2020 8:39 pm 0Likes

    Aw this was such a gd read & heartfelt article! Can see that u got the hang of this whole new owner thing fast n well tho so good job!! you got this!👍🏼 it’s so true that all these sacrifices will be worthwhile at the end of the day n ull rly def find a best friend in ur doggo, one like no other☺️ jiayou!

  • Jess
    Posted September 14, 2020 8:43 pm 0Likes

    Sounds tough to be a fur mama! 🥺 All the best and hope you and Joshi can grow together ❤️

  • Sam
    Posted September 14, 2020 9:16 pm 0Likes

    What a heart-warming read 🥰

  • Mako
    Posted September 14, 2020 11:37 pm 0Likes

    Hoshi you’re adorable! My hooman loved this article!! I am my mama’s first doggie too and she resonated with lots of this!

  • Zm
    Posted September 15, 2020 12:01 am 0Likes

    Wah so cute ah

  • mmm
    Posted September 15, 2020 12:03 am 0Likes

    cute leh

  • mmm
    Posted September 15, 2020 12:04 am 0Likes

    adorable woah

  • Angel
    Posted September 15, 2020 1:23 am 0Likes

    💕💕

  • edenthecav
    Posted September 15, 2020 1:33 am 0Likes

    Hoshi you are so cute! Relateable, I guess most pawrents go through the same thing, what a throwback to Eden’s puppy days! :”)

  • Eevee_the_pomchi
    Posted September 15, 2020 1:45 am 0Likes

    Hoshi, ur family love you just the way you are.
    You are so blessed your mama really put effort on raising u well. Kudos to that.
    This article is really important especially when people want to get a puppy. They definitely need to read this…

  • Billieandfinn
    Posted September 15, 2020 6:16 am 0Likes

    Billie was a rescue and 1 when we got her. She was very scared and still had many of the puppy traits that you are talking about. I have always wanted a puppy but I’m so glad that I found Billie to rescue instead

    • Coffee.maltipoo
      Posted September 16, 2020 7:26 pm 0Likes

      It’s been so long since Coffee was a puppy that I forgot how it felt like! I met Hoshi when he was much smaller and I can tell it must have been hard work. But all these will definitely be fond memories many years down the road 🙂

  • Imjarvis_thebeagle
    Posted September 15, 2020 6:55 am 0Likes

    Totally can relate to that. The struggle is real- Sleep deprivation, mad cleaning of pee and poop. But yes, all these are so worth it! Thanks Hoshi and hoomum for sharing!

  • Chelsea the Sheltie
    Posted September 15, 2020 7:55 am 0Likes

    Henlo Hoshi you leaf Monster!! Lucky you’re adorable!! Chelsea was Super teethy as a pupper and I had to buy new toys twice a week so I’m not the source of her teething LOL.

  • @doudoudesu
    Posted September 15, 2020 9:29 am 0Likes

    Hoshi has matured into a handsome boy all thanks to your guidance!! even aunty is impressed at your dedication and has mentioned that “你很会教”. You have been and are doing amazing! (P.S. love the BTS snippets haha)

  • Mark
    Posted September 15, 2020 9:29 am 0Likes

    Wow such a heartwarming story

  • Lim
    Posted September 15, 2020 9:32 am 0Likes

    Very nice article and heartwarming 😍
    Raising a pup really need a lots of patients and love. Hoshi is very lucky to have you as mama ❤️

  • Keziah
    Posted September 15, 2020 12:47 pm 0Likes

    Thank you! This is so heart warming 💕

  • Daylendoyle
    Posted September 15, 2020 8:43 pm 0Likes

    Hi hoshi & mummy.

    No matter what happens.
    Stay safe & be happy.
    That is what’s most important.
    Come out for a run tgt soon!

    Dayle & doyle

  • Emma
    Posted September 15, 2020 9:57 pm 0Likes

    Such a wonderful article written! Hoshi has definitely blossomed under your care! I’m sure all the sleepless nights is worth it! Hoshi is so lucky to have you as his mum 😍

  • SH
    Posted September 15, 2020 10:10 pm 0Likes

    Good read!! 😊

  • Coko
    Posted September 15, 2020 10:45 pm 0Likes

    Great article! Hoshi is so cute and very lucky to have you as owner. Best wishes 🥰

  • Woofy
    Posted September 16, 2020 12:19 am 0Likes

    It is never an easy job handling a new puppy at home, but you’re doing great!! Treasure his puppy time !!

  • Pebble
    Posted September 16, 2020 3:53 am 0Likes

    So heartwarming to read this whole article ❤ Reminds me of how it was when pebble first came home 5 years ago. Nevertheless, looking back, it was a journey filled with so much memories.

  • aloysius
    Posted September 19, 2020 4:26 pm 0Likes

    WHAT A HEARTWARMING STORY SO MUCH RELATABLE EVENTS

  • Ck
    Posted September 19, 2020 4:27 pm 0Likes

    Cute!!

  • Genial
    Posted September 19, 2020 4:28 pm 0Likes

    Cool story bro

  • Genial
    Posted September 19, 2020 4:28 pm 0Likes

    Cutie😍😍👍😩

  • Megan goh
    Posted September 19, 2020 4:41 pm 0Likes

    This is so cute
    Hoshie is sooo cute and( ˘ ³˘)♥
    Beautiful!!!!

  • Megan goh
    Posted September 19, 2020 4:42 pm 0Likes

    Ho shi is soo cute and beautiful
    ( ˘ ³˘)♥

  • Lydia
    Posted September 19, 2020 4:43 pm 0Likes

    ꧁Hoshi is so cute! Hoshi’s mama is also so good at this. Hope both of you the best!꧂
    ( ˘ ³˘)♥︎

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